silkroadpalace_Part/duo

A short story of friends, food, drinking and more.

Ok so in yesterdays asterisk* the situation had occurred to my best friend, and as it turns out, one of the girls that accompanied us out was the girlfriend of that dude. Yea, so can I just say in my opinion-that’s a shady thing to do, push a girl into the wall and yet the girlfriend is still with you?? Hi, red flag. If he’s got balls to push your friend, what makes you think he won’t push you/etc.??? Ok moving on.

So we get to this Chinese restaurant, Silk Road Palace. There is quite the wait, I am assuming it is very popular for the fact that they give out free white wine. [Boxed white wine at that-Diamond Lake for all you boxed wine lovers] We wait in the cold for a bit, finally we try to fit into the restaurant with the rest of the 30 people waiting. As you wait, people are trying to get through either to leave, get in to put their name on the list, or it’s the delivery guy. It was a very squished/claustrophobic area. At one point I had this big dude just giving me a lap dance of some sort, very uncomfortable experience let me just say. People at the bar would try and pass glasses of white to us, so I guess that was cool. But then I tasted this wine, and wow, not cool. No way Jose.

We finally sit down-order, get 2 bottles of wine, begin. Now, I hadn’t eaten much that day so I was starving, I also don’t drink often, if ever.. so tolerance was at an all time low + I am no big girl unfortunately, so I can’t keep up with these college gals who make it part of their studies to drink professionally.

The service was great, they would see your carafe ½ full and re-fill it to the top asap.. so you can imagine how much wine we were getting/ how fucked we were going to get..

To be continued..
-r

silkroadpalace_Part/uno

A short story of friends, food, drinking and more.

I live in the city, and I have this best friend that I’ve known since 7th grade. She lives about 1 ½ hours out of the city and into the Bronx. Sadly I don’t get to see her as often as I’d like to, even though we live so close. I’m definitely lucky to live in the same state as my best friend, since we all know that in most cases when people move from home, friends just don’t go follow them. But for us we just ended up finding each other.

So Friday night we make plans to go out with 2 of her friends from college, they were going to come into the city. [yaay!] So we were to meet at 6:30, she ran late, then I had transportation delays, and we couldn’t reach each other on our cells, so it was all very frustrating. Finally we meet at Times Square, and it’s 8:00. She wasn’t in the best mood for a moment, plus someone had just thrown a penny at her! [wtf?]

We go back into the subway to go uptown, destination: 81st and Amsterdam.

*little side note//what would you do in this situation..

Say one night you’re crying for whatever reason, so your friend comes to console you. Your boyfriend isn’t really helping, so your friend tells him to just go back to his room and let you handle it.

Ok, say he gets angry, and perhaps he was angry beforehand but he’s mad because you’re telling him to let you handle it and so he pushes you into a wall.

So should I dump the guy because he pushed my friend, and that’s a red flag that he’ll push me/etc.?

Or let it slide?

p.s. We’ve only been dating for 5 days, and she’s been my friend for 3 years.

To be continued…

–r

forgetme//forgetyou

There is this power that controls us to control things in our life; and we can’t help it.

 Like for example, the boy I was totally head over heels for, I made myself turn that feeling off– and then it has come back.. slowly.  It haunts me. It makes me toss and turn at night literally. I didn’t fall asleep till after 5 am last night.

This boy makes me think of things I don’t want to. Like how I don’t feel my boyfriend is the right guy for me. How I feel as though there’s better out there but I seem to be settling. And then I think of this guy constantly. I can’t get him out of my head.

Am I feeling this way just becfause my boyfriend and I have been long distance for almost 15 months now and I am just lonely? Where do you draw the line wether or not I am in love or just plain love him? How come I find myself ignoring his phone calls sometimes? Why do my eyes wander now? If you’re in love, shouldn’t you just know that this person is amazing and albeit not wonder about others? Or perhaps I am too young?

I can’t get him out of my head; and as frustrating as he may be, he makes me smile no matter what.

–r

dirtyVSclean

dirty as in the time you and your girlfriend were at your parents for thanksgiving and they all went outside to play football and your girl said doing it in your mom’s room was a huuuge turn on…

Yea not today. Dirty as in your roomate who’s lived in the apartment 7 months before you moved in and you find out they dont even own a dust pan for the broom. Dirty as in you found larva in the trashcan. dirty as in wtf dirty.

Or how about this guy I know who won’t date a girl if she burps, or says she needs to pee; but yet, you can swear like a pirate around him or to him for that matter. What’s with that?

–r

didntItellyou//Ihaveaboyfriend?

What is up with you gentleman out there that when you meet a girl and she has talked about her boyfriend and etc.; yet you still say shit like– ‘whats up baby gurl’, and things like, ‘hey wanna hang out, watch a movie, spoon, drink a little..’?

Is that appropriate in your opinion?

Perhaps this behavior happens more often when the boyfriend is a long distance one. So you try anyway, maybe you think she’s vulnerable and will give in. I don’t get it. How do you make it any more clear to a guy that he can’t be saying shit like that to you and that you are not available in certain situations..

Is it her fault? Is she giving the wrong idea somehow? What does a girl do that could reflect the wrong idea about what she wants/etc. from you? Does this make any sense? And then she feels like a douchebag because she keeps saying no to the guy [in a nice way of course] and he somehow makes her feel bad for turning him down. Wtf Seriously.

–r

whenwhatyouvebeenlookingforisRIGHTthere..

and you’ve had coffee with them, experienced cinematic adventures, enjoyed crazy conversations, and just enjoyed each other–and all this time you didn’t have a clue.

 How do you fucking miss that? I did. 

Like, what the fuck. It makes me mad that I can’t think straight. I’ll tell myself that I’m thinking too hard into this; but if it was such an easy situation– WHY AM I QUESTIONING IT? Do I like him, do I just want to be friends, why did I like him oh so much before and now I’ve convinced myself otherwise, but catch myself thinking about him.

 I feel when I do blog, it’s just been me being all confused– which isn’t what I used to reflect in my past entries.. perhaps thats why I havent been present on wordpress lastely; or the fact that I work crazy hours. I just wish I could stop thinking and just do. You know?

–r

fucktheDoNotCrosstape

When do you draw the line to the number of things you and another do, such as how many times you are in contact–either by text, email, etc? How are you suppose to monitor these things, when all you are doing is having a good time with someone you enjoy without making it awkward or having goals of a relationship other than friends?Apparently.. you can only do certain things so much so that it doesn’t lead them to “liking” you, and then not being able to hang out with you because you don’t reciprocate. And that’s another thing; if I liked someone and they didn’t feel the same way, I would still hang out with them. I wouldn’t be like, oh it’s going to be torture, I cant see you..

So, can two people who start as friends, hang out once a week, walk around the city, see a movie, go to restaurants together, get coffee together– maybe spend the whole day together without it being awkward. Or can guys and girls never be friends, because one or the other will always be looking for more? Attraction, sure, but come on, draw the line right? Is it that guys in particular, can’t just be friends with girls? Are certain activities, such as the ones listed above, not be done because it seems like boyfriend girlfriend activities?

Relationships. double you tee eff.

-r